Wild Ponies is a country-folk duo composed of Doug and Telisha Williams. As partners in music and life, they have developed a cohesive and refined sound. Their album, Dreamers, is out August 23, 2024. The album is an exploration of life, love, and loss, covering joy and grief, queerness and polyamory, and their journey pursuing fertility treatments. Itās a beautiful and touching collection of songs.
Before crafting Dreamers, the duo were asked by a fan where their dreams were. They reflected on the idea of where, not what, their dreams were and their response was, āOur dreams are everywhere, buzzing around like energetic beesā¦ At times, our dreams are hard to wrangle ā a wild ponyā¦ā
This idea of dreams set the concept for the new album. We are excited to dive into Dreamers and Doug and Telishaās experiences as touring musicians in a queer, polyamorous family.
What does the album Dreamers mean to you personally? What excites you the most about sharing this release?
Telisha Williams: This record is very personal. We talk about becoming a polyamorous triad, being queer foster parents in the state of Tennessee, struggling with fertility issues, working on being more mindful. Itās basically a peak into our home, hearts, and heads. Iām excited about the way it sounds. Brandy ZDAN did a beautiful job producing this record. The band is amazing, and we couldnāt be more proud.
Doug Williams: Dreamers is the story of who we are. Itās not all easy and itās not all pretty, but itās all true. I love this record. Maybe thatās not something I should say about our own work but itās true ā Iām really proud of it.
Your song āHeartbeatā touches on your experience with fetal embryo transfer and even includes your child’s in-utero heartbeat. Is there anything youād like to share about your journey with fertility treatments?
TW: Doug actually wrote that one after we thought that we had lost our pregnancy. We had a pretty traumatic āepisodeā when I was at about 5 weeks and we were sure that she was gone. The next morning, we went in for an ultrasound and there was her sweet little heartbeat on the screen. Strong and healthy. My process to becoming a mother was challenging and worth it. Our first embryo was a gift from a dear friend and we were so excited about the possibility of raising our genetic siblings together. Unfortunately, that one didnāt take and we didnāt know how to move forward. Our implications counselor connected us with another woman wanting to do an open embryo adoption. We met over zoom and now, weāre family. She has 2 boys that are the genetic siblings of our daughter. They live nearby and we all get to spend time together. Itās been an incredibly generous journey.
DW: This one was tough to write. We wereĀ sure we had lost another embryo. Sure of it. It was pretty difficult. So, we scheduled an emergency ultrasound, but we werenāt feeling good. The joy and tears when we saw that heartbeat on the screen is something that I just canāt describe. I tried to describe it in the song. Just pure joy and gratitude.
How do you balance a career in the music industry and touring with your roles as parents? How does polyamory play a role in this for you?
TW: Weāre still figuring that part out. There are some advantages of being a three-parent household. Our partner Laura also travels for work as a photographer and weāre able to help each other as the parents that are holding down the homefront from time to time. We also enjoy traveling all together as a family of 5, but itās hard to find room for the bass. [Laughs]
DW: I donāt know that there is really a good balance. Accepting that makes it easier, maybe? When you know itās just going to be a little fucked from time to time, itās just not as much of a surprise. But weāve got to prioritize whatās best for the kiddos. And, I do think itās good for them to see the possibility of living life on your own terms. Thatās what we want for them, so we try to model it.
Is there anything you’d like to share with our audience about queerness, polyamory, and love, and how these experiences can vary for different people?
TW: We didnāt necessarily seek out polyamory. Doug and I are both bi/pansexual and have had an ethically non-monogamous relationship for a long time. When we met Laura and started spending time together as friends, we started having āmore than friendsā feelings for each other. We realized that it didnāt divide or diminish our experience as a couple. If anything, we felt stronger and more connected with each otherĀ and Laura. That realization that love was not a finite resource changed everything for us. We know that this relationship model is not for everyone. It requires a great deal of communication and intentionality, but we couldnāt be happier or more proud with this dream that weāre creating.
DW: Yeah, it takes a lot of communicating. A lot of talking. Check-ins. Podcasts. Books. Like Telisha said, we kept a lot of our identity fairly quiet for most of our career. It feels really good to be able to completely live our lives out in the open now. It can be a little scary in the state of Tennessee at times, but at this point it feels like the right thing to do is stay and fight to make it better here. Hopefully weāll be able to continue to do that and make is safer not only for us, but for the rest of the queer community as well.
For anyone reading this who might not be out of the closet, were there any specific people, musicians, or resources that helped you find yourself as a queer individual?
TW: I canāt name anyone specifically, but I will say that when folks from the LGBTQ+ community show up at our shows or events weāre hosting, it means the world. Feeling seen and supported by this community has transformed me as a human and helped me to be more open and available to support others in and out of the community.
DW: That is a good question. Honestly, just our community. For us, or for me, it just took a lot of talking and a lot of checking in with folks we know. Friends who were already out and very public.
Who are your favorite LGBTQ+ artists and bands?
TW: I mean, we have to acknowledge what Brandi Carlile has done for our community, right?! Sheās really elevated and supported the LGBTQ+ community in so many ways. From there, Iād say my friends, Heather Mae and Crys Matthews. Iām inspired by the music of Adeem the Artist. The community is strong and talented, yāall.
DW: Oh yeah, all of the above ā I wasĀ so blown away by Adeem The Artist! Such amazing songs. And Crys and Heather both have killer new projects. I also love Ana Egge, Anne McCue, Amelia White, Aaron Lee Tasjanā¦ just all of our friends, I guess.
What does it mean to you to be an LGBTQ+ musician?
TW: It means that I can sing about all of it. I donāt have to hide in the stories and the pronouns. I can share the beauty of the love I am so lucky to have in my life. I can share it out loud, and I dress in way more colors than I used to. Taste the Rainbow, people!
DW: [Laughs] I love Tās answer. Yeah, itās new for us to be so public about our identities. We were mostly closeted for a long time. Definitely publicly [closeted]. It feelsĀ so good to live our authentic life in front of people now. Thereās so much joy in it. So much love. Itās a powerful and beautiful thing that we werenāt sure weād ever feel comfortable sharing so openly and now I wish weād done that a long time ago. It took us a while and it was a slow coming out even when we started the process.
Whatās your ideal vision for your future?
TW: We want to keep making art and connecting with people. Thatās been our drive all along. That connection and building community. We plan to tour more intentionally in the coming years, because home has a bit more of a pull with the kiddos and family, these days. We also plan to travel with them, introduce them to the amazing community of music fans, and show them that families are made, not just born.
DW: Yeah, the ideal vision would be a life where our family and our career work together. Weāre definitely finding ways to do that. Itās difficult, but I donāt think itās impossible.
What is your greatest fear?
TW: I guess, since the pandemic, Iāve been a bit afraid of losing myself as an artist. When we couldnāt get out and ādo what we do,ā we werenāt exactly sure who we were anymore. It turns out that weāre still as connected to those fans and friends as weāve always been, it just looks a little different now.
DW: Woof. You mean other than a second Donald Trump presidency? I donāt know ā I think again, honestly, it has to do with identity. IĀ love my new role as āDaddy.ā I just want to do a good job and take care of these kids. I also really want them to see that itās possible to live an artistic life. I guess my greatest fear is failing them in some way.
What would a āperfect dayā look like for you?
TW: Oooo! Iād get to sleep until the big number is on the 7,Ā then Iād have a fun morning with the kiddos, take them to their amazing daycare, come back for a walk/workout, morning pages and some time to write or play music. Then, the afternoon, Iād intentionally filter through some emails, pick the kiddos up, play, play, play, throw in a dance party and a jam walk, and sing them to sleep. Then, Iād have a little connected time with my partners and hit the hay. Throw in a coffee, walk, or cocktail date with a friend a few times a week, and that sounds pretty great to me!
DW: A perfect dayā¦ High of 82 and sunny. Like T said, sleeping a little late would beĀ such a luxury. Then a little morning time with the kiddos before diving into work. Do a little writing, play some guitar? Then around lunch time take a nice twisty motorcycle ride to a great taco truck about 45 minutes away. Come home, get a little more work done, hang with the family and have a great dinner together. After the kids go to bed, maybe read a little while or listen to some vinyl and enjoy a drink or two. And if weāre really talking about a perfect day, thereās a little moreā¦ but weāll stop there.
Why do you create music? Whatās more satisfying to you, the process or the outcome?
TW: I think the outcome is more satisfying to me, but I also love the process and I believe to my core that the process is more important than the product. I know that music has healing powers. I have experienced that first hand, so thatās why I create music. To heal and experience joy, share or release sorrow, express disappointment or hope. Music and emotions are directly related, in my mind, so in order for me to be healthy and happy and present, IĀ need to be creating.
DW: We talk about this all the time! Yeah, weāre huge believers in the process being more important than the product. But, still, itās such a great feeling to have a new little song and watch it go out into the world and connect with people! I think thatās why most artists create ā the desire to connect, to say something. The good that the process is doing in our lives and in our heads is something we usually discover later. Sometimes that even happens with songs no one else will ever hear.
What are your release and touring plans for the next year?
TW: Dreamers will be released on August 23. Weāre touring very intentionally for the remainder of the year with shows in the Southeast and Midwest, mainly. Weāll continue to tour in support of the record in 2025, balancing our time at home with our family and out on the road. Weāre excited to see where this new record takes us!
DW: Yeah, intentional touring is the main thing, I think. We wonāt play as many shows, so if you see us coming to your town, get tickets! Weāre just going to be a little more precious with our family time. But, still creating art, still connecting, still holding community events. WeāreĀ so excited to get this record out. Iām really proud of it.
Photo Credit: Laura Schneider