Live What You’re Singing: A Conversation with Sarah Shook

Within the bounds of country music, pronoun play doesn’t come easy, but Sarah Shook believes listeners are more than capable of finding ways to see themselves in her songs. With her band, the Disarmers, she deals with gender in her songwriting as a means to challenge the heteronormative forms of representation within country music.

On “The Bottle Never Lets Me Down,” from the band’s new album, Years, she sings about becoming the man she used to be, while on “Parting Words,” she addresses a woman, her former lover, about the way things ended. Not only does she weave together traditional country, honky-tonk, blues, punk, and more, but she conscientiously flips country music’s perspective around in order to be more inclusive.

There’s a definite sense of who belongs and who doesn’t in country music, but that’s slowly shifting.

It’s a really very cool and exciting time for women making country music, especially the sort of throwback traditional country. There’s a lot of buzz centered around this new wave of women outlaw country artists. I think that’s a really good thing, and industry-wide it’s a lot more prevalent than you realize. One of the things that was frustrating for me last year when we put Sidelong out, I probably did 50-some odd phone interviews, and two of them—two of them!—were with women. I had a whole conversation with my manager, like it’s hard enough being a woman playing music, but it’s a tough field to be a woman in journalism. This year with this release, I feel like there’s been more of a balance as far as speaking with male and female journalists, and that’s been encouraging too.

You’ve been mentioned along with country outsiders like Sturgill Simpson and Margo Price. How do you see your relationship within the genre?

I think that we’ve been branded outlaw, and I feel like people interpret that in different ways. Of course outlaw country is the super old school Waylon Jennings beat, but I think the term is evolving pretty rapidly into something that is more inclusive to people doing it their own way. That’s one of the things that was really cool about country music in its heyday, when it was first starting out and all those classic artists were on the radio. As soon as the song started—a few bars in—you could tell whose band it was because all those bands had such a distinct sound. That is really hard to find today, everything sounds the same. It’s very clear that people are just looking for patterns that have achieved success and are popular. And then you have folks out there like Margo Price and Kelsey Waldon and Kacey Musgraves, and they’re kind of doing their own thing. Their bands have respective sounds that are unique and identifiable. That is really cool and very exciting.

You’ve been forthright about your sexual identity. How do you navigate your personal story within the larger scope of representation?

To a degree, I feel like there are certain points in time where it’s paramount to be very outspoken about that stuff. Most of the time, I feel like doing what I’m doing—touring relentlessly, putting out records, and being unapologetically myself—is a very powerful and political maneuver as well. Sometimes it’s more effective in a palpable way to live what you’re saying and be the person that you’re talking about. I think it’s a cool and different way for people to realize, especially within country music, which has a certain, specific demographic of people, that, yes, you can be a pansexual atheist vegan making country music, and does that affect the music? Sometimes lyrically, yes, but the overarching theme is just that I don’t necessarily have to have everything in common with my fans. We can have differences. It’s really cool to have interactions with people who are like, “I never felt comfortable with the idea of homosexuality or bisexuality, and I meet you and we’re talking and hanging out and having a good time. You’re just a regular person.” I’m like, “Exactly, we’re regular people, believe it or not.” [Laughs]

When you put it like that, it’s so depressing, but it rings true. Every time I meet someone who’s uncomfortable about anything outside heterosexuality it’s usually because they haven’t spoken to anyone who’s different from them.

Exactly. And that is such a big thing. We can play New York City and that’s a totally different experience than playing a small town in Alabama. I think consistently being the person who is always willing to talk to fans after a show and be real and be myself and form unlikely friendships, I think that’s a really cool way to create change.


I always thought action over verbiage is the way to go about it. But then looking back, we’ve seen from the Dixie Chicks how speaking your mind can be dangerous. Do the repercussions ever concern you?

You know, I’ve never been concerned about that because I feel it’s important to be honest and forthright as a human being, and as an artist and certainly lyrically as well. The other thing to me that’s really important, from the word go I’ve been very strategic about how I wanted to grow this band and how I wanted to see success. It’s never been my prerogative to go after the country music fan base—and certainly that’s the majority of our fan base. My thing was, “Yes, this is country music, but this is music for anyone who likes it.” It’s inclusive, and anyone that these songs resonate with, it’s for you. Taking that stance and being strategic about it has certainly helped. It’s really encouraging to be a country band playing outlaw country and have a very diverse audience, and I think that’s a thing a lot of traditional artists struggle with. They get pigeonholed. Being outspoken in an honest fashion but not a combative fashion, I feel that’s really helped push our music to demographics that it wouldn’t necessarily otherwise reach.

All this talk of the new outlaw makes me excited for a tour one day, or even a festival.

We need our own cruise. [Laughs] That would be amazing.

An outlaw lady cruise.

Exactly. Oh my god, that’d be a lotta fun.

Critics have referenced the underlying sense of menace in your voice, but your vocals on “New Ways to Fail” have such a biting, sarcastic note. Where does that darker sense of humor come from?

I’m very nihilistic. [Laughs] I’m one of those people that thinks life is way too short to take yourself too seriously. Within this world, there’s this huge danger of being, “I’m so and so, do you know who I am?” I’m just a person playing music and having a good time. Music should be fun, and, yes, it’s business too, but if it’s all business you’re going to get burnt out. You gotta have fun with it.

There’s also a tone of defiance in both your voice and music, which requires constantly stoking that fire inside you in order to stay angry enough to fight. How do you find yourself doing that?

I definitely have a lot of personal experiences that certainly stoke the fire. I have a lot of trans and non-binary friends here at home in Chapel Hill. Chapel Hill is a progressive little community, but even within the context of a progressive community, I’ve been out at bars before and had people give them shit about how they look. That’s a real thing. It’s so wild to me that the trans community is what’s being targeted because they’re already vulnerable to begin with and they’re probably the most non-combative people. They’re not putting up fights, they’re just trying to exist and have a life and be comfortable, like everyone else wants to do. You witness injustice like that firsthand, and you try and de-escalate situations like that. It’s a very real thing and there’s still a lot of work to be done in terms of showing people that we’re not the enemy, and yeah we’re kind of freaks but we’re not out to destroy morality.

Everyone can exist together.

Exactly, yup.

I noticed you play with gender a lot in your lyricism, either by not using specific pronouns or by flipping them in other interesting ways. Can you talk a bit about that process?

I’ve always liked pushing the boundaries with that. I think blurring gender lines is really important because it totally leaves the story open to listener interpretation. People can be like, “Well, I’m not really sure if this song is written from a man’s point of view about a woman, or a woman whose woman lover left her.” Leaving that open to interpretation and letting people wonder and figure it out for themselves and how it applies to them personally, I think that’s a cool way to let people arrive that their own conclusions, and also realize that they feel perfectly OK not really knowing.


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3×3: Greg Graffin on Old Mountains, Lady Pleasers, and Excellent Filters

Artist: Greg Graffin
Hometown: Ithaca, NY and Los Angeles, CA
Latest Album: Millport
Personal Nicknames: Garth, Glenn

 

Schwedagon Pagoda, Rangoon, Year 2000

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If your life were a movie, which songs would be on the soundtrack?

“In the City” by Joe Walsh, and “Country Boy” by Ricky Skaggs.

How many unread emails or texts currently fill your inbox?

Zero (excellent filters) if I do say so myself.

How many pillows do you sleep with?

I’m married, so …

 

Erratics. Boulders left behind. Rocky Mountain N.P. Colorado, 2013.

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How many pairs of shoes do you own?

Five: fieldwork, hiking, city slicker, stage, sports, walk around.

Which mountains are your favorite — Smoky, Blue Ridge, Rocky, Appalachian, or Catskill?

Allegheny! Real old time.

If you were a liquor, what would you be?

A lady pleaser.

 

Chi Town at dusk. Sept 2016

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Fate or free will?

Each ranks high on the bullshit scale.

Sweet or sour?

Sour.

Sunrise or sunset?

One hour after and one hour before each one.

3×3: Dana Falconberry on Laura Veirs, Jeff Goldblum, and an Endless Supply of Coffee

Artist: Dana Falconberry
Hometown: Dearborn, MI
Latest Album: From the Forest Came the Fire
Personal Nicknames: Shuntel

Who would play you in the Lifetime movie of your life? 
Jeff Goldblum 

If money were no object, where would you live and what would you do? 
I'd live in a cabin on a cliff along the Pictured Rocks lakeshore and I would look for feathers all day long and drink wine and make weird art all night.

If the After-Life exists, what song will be playing when you arrive? 
Theme song from Jurassic Park — like when they are flying in the helicopter. 

What brand of toothpaste do you use? 
Tom's, duh

What was the last movie that you really loved? 
Let the Right One In (Swedish version)

What's your favorite TV show? 
Either Breaking Bad or Roseanne

Morning person or night owl? 
Night owl!

Johnny or Willie? 
Laura Veirs

Coffee or tea? 
Coffee forever everyday.

3×3: Carter Tanton on Wonder Woman, Dolly Parton, and Great Music for Long Drives

Artist: Carter Tanton
Hometown: Baltimore, MD
Latest Album: Jettison the Valley
Personal Nicknames: Pickles 

 

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Your house is burning down and you can grab only one thing — what would you save?
I suppose my pets, since I'm assuming, in this scenario, the sentient human beings around me could escort themselves out. 

If you weren't a musician, what would you be? 
I'd probably fix up old houses and buildings. I hate seeing derelict ones torn down. 

Who is the most surprising artist in current rotation in your iTunes/Spotify? 
I love this collaboration record between Brian Eno and Daniel Lanois called Apollo: Atmospheres and Soundtracks. It's really great for long drives. 

 

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What is the one thing you can’t survive without on tour?
Coffee

If you had to get a tattoo of someone's face, who would it be?
Glen Danzig

Who is your favorite superhero?
Wonder Woman was cool … all that twirling around. 

 

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Vinyl or digital?
Digital, at least right now. 

Dolly or Loretta?
Dolly

Meat lover's or veggie?
Veggie

3×3: The Accidentals on Musical Obsessions, Non-Designer Jeans, and a Shared Love of Amy Poehler

Artist: The Accidentals
Hometown: Traverse City, MI
Latest Album: Bittersweet
Rejected Band Names: The Savage Kittens
Personal Nicknames:
Sav: SavvyKat 
Katie: Katie Arson is my heavy metal name. Someday we will have a psychedelic side project called the Acid Lentils (instead of Accidentals).
Michael: Big Michael, Scout Leader, Boy

What was the first record you ever bought with your own money? 
Sav: Echoes, Silence, Patience, and Grace by the Foo Fighters and Illinois by Sufjan Stevens. I bought them together.
Katie: The soundtrack to the film Juno. I listened to it obsessively in middle school. 
Michael: Seventh grade — Rocks by Aerosmith and Fly By Night by Rush

How many unread emails or texts currently fill your inbox?
Sav: I'm really OCD, so … none.
Katie: None! 
Michael: Zero, OCD like Sav.

If your life were a movie, which songs would be on the soundtrack?
Sav: 1. "Rhapsody in Blue" by George Gershwin … the Fantasia animation pretty much sums up my life. 2. "Mr. Blue Sky" by ELO. Who can resist such a happy song? 3. "Bicycle" by Queen: "I want to ride my bicycle. I want to ride my bike. I want to ride my bicycle. I want to ride it where I like." Sums it up.
Katie: Everything on the Juno soundtrack. (I am obsessed.)
Michael: Anything by Sufjan Stevens and the National, with a pinch of Animal Collective.

What brand of jeans do you wear?
Sav: Brands. Ugh. Whatever fits and doesn't have holes in it.
Katie: Flying Monkey (dig the name).
Michael: Arizona

What's your go-to karaoke tune?
Sav: When I was six years old, I performed "Paved Paradise" for my school talent show to a karaoke track. That's all I got.
Katie: Any song from any Disney movie ever.
Michael: "Don’t Stop Me Now" by Queen or "Just Like Heaven" by the Cure

If you were a liquor, what would you be?
Sav: I’m not a drinker, so I have absolutely no idea. I would guess the strong bitter kind that you have to have an acquired taste for. 😉
Katie: I don't drink, so to confidently answer, I took a quiz on quizrocket.com. RESULT: Rum — "You are sweet and friendly and sociable, but you have a laid back vibe. You are best enjoyed in a relaxed state of mind."
Michael: Fireball Whiskey = red hair. 

Poehler or Schumer?
Sav: Amy Poehler slays it in Parks and Recreation.  I'm pretty sure she's my spirit animal.
Katie: Tina Fey is my favorite, so naturally, Amy Poehler. 
Michael: Poehler all the way.

Chocolate or vanilla?
Sav: I was actually born without a sense of smell or taste, so it's all the same to me.
Katie: Chocolate
Michael: Vanilla, for sure. Chocolate is everywhere, and a good vanilla flavor is hard to come by these days.

Blues or bluegrass?
Sav: Blues-grass.
Katie: Greensky Bluegrass
Michael: Billy Strings — Punch Brothers — Bluegrass

3×3: The Record Company on Horton, Hugs, and Jennifer Hudson

Artist: Chris Vos (of The Record Company) 
Hometown: Los Angeles, CA
Latest Album: Give It Back to You
Rejected Band Names: We will take our rejected band names to the grave. 

Who would play you in the Lifetime movie of your life? 
Fozzie Bear

If you were a candle, what scent would you be?  
Dog hugs 

What literary character or story do you most relate to? 
Horton

What's your favorite planet — and why? 
Earth, it's the only one I've visited. 

What's your best physical attribute? 
The feet of a champion

Who is your favorite Jennifer: Lawrence, Lopez, or Love-Hewitt?  
Hudson 

Cat or dog? 
Whichever is within petting distance 

Rain or shine?
Shine on, you crazy diamond

Mild, medium, or spicy?
Extra mellow

3×3: Shannon LaBrie on Dresses, Cachaca, and Her Affinity for Alabama Songwriters

Artist: Shannon LaBrie
Hometown: Lincoln, NE
Latest Album: War & Peace
Personal Nicknames: Shay, LaBrie, ShalaBrie

What was the first record you ever bought with your own money?:
Matrix soundtrack. It was "Parental Advisory," so I had to have an older friend buy it for me. I was obsessed with the song "Clubbed to Death" by Rob Dougan. Now that I think about it, I think I was in fifth or sixth grade. Yeah, I was an intense kid. 

How many unread emails or texts currently fill your inbox?:
Ha! Tonight, 197 unread e-mails and 48 unread texts. I know, I know, I'm behind.  

If your life were a movie, which songs would be on the soundtrack?: 
"Cover Me Up" by Jason Isbell and "Over My Head" by Alabama Shakes. 
The lyrics, the tempo … they just fit every situation of my life. Those songs are perfect anytime of day. 

What brand of jeans do you wear?:
I wear dresses — preferably dresses by Johnny Was, Biya, and Free People. But, let's be honest: I shop at Goodwill. 

What's your go-to karaoke tune?:
If I did karaoke, it'd be Beyoncé "Rocket!"

If you were a liquor, what would you be? 
Weekdays: A glass of red wine or some Jameson neat! 
Weekends: Cachaca. Nothing like a spicy caparhinia!

 

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Poehler or Schumer?
Poehler

Chocolate or vanilla?
Chocolate

Blues or bluegrass?
Blues

3×3: Cassandra Violet on Nose Flutes, Unscented Scents, and the Neutralizing Effects of Horchata

Artist: Cassandra Violet
Hometown: Los Angeles, CA 
Latest Album: Body & Mind EP
Personal Nicknames: Cassie and the Good Fight, Cassaroo (only my dad calls me this)

If Jesus, Buddha, Krishna, and Mohammed were in a band together, who would play what?
I would love to hear these four gentlemen play four-part harmony created by nose flutes. That would be a cool band.

If you were a candle, what scent would you be?
My scent would be lavender shampoo, coconut oil, and Trader Joe's unscented detergent (interpreting this question really literally). Should I say pine needles and musk or something? 

What literary character or story do you most relate to?
I have related to Bridget Jones on a really deep level since I was 14 years old. I re-read that book whenever I'm feeling bummed out.

What's your favorite planet — and why?
Mars, because it's fiery but can still sustain life (barely).

What's your best physical attribute?
My hair. Also my mouth. 

Who is your favorite Jennifer: Lawrence, Aniston, or Love-Hewitt?
Aniston has my same birthday, February 11, so I feel a certain kinship with her. I also like how she's found her own way in love. However, enough with the Aveeno ads, already. I grew up watching Party of Five so I also love JLH. And everybody loves Jennifer Lawrence.

Cat or dog?
Dog. Dachshund. 

Rain or shine?
Rain. Cold weather fashion is the most flattering on everybody — men, especially. 

Mild, medium, or spicy?
Spicy, if there is some horchata around to neutralize. 

3×3: Terri Binion on Boots, Band, and Big Bowls of Sticky White Rice

Artist: Terri Binion
Hometown: Jacksonville, NC
Latest Album: The Day After The Night Before
Personal Nicknames:  No nicknames, but I'm sure there are some descriptions that personify me: swath-like, pushy, perfectionist, hard-headed … things like that, but most times I manage to pass as endearing. Wink.


Which decade do you think of as the "golden age" of music?
Well, luckily I was born at a perfect time that I could have some sense of the last several decades, but am particularly fond of the '70s, but starting in 1969. The country songwriters, the folk writers, and the rock 'n' roll bands from the '70s are my influences — Glen Campbell, Joni Mitchell, the Allman Brothers, Neil Young. You may not hear that in my music, but when I hear a Steely Dan tune or an old Willie Nelson song suddenly play, I'm transported. I truly feel like I have experienced, first-hand, the greatest era of music ever recorded and released in album format. It's the feeling I get in my bones that makes me biased to this era.

If you could have a superpower, what would you choose?
I would FLY.

If you were in a high school marching band, which instrument would you want to play?  
You know, I played the clarinet. I wore the uniform and I marched. I had that little attachable music stand with the marching cues penciled in above the charts. It was not a fun instrument to play on the field. If I were a kid today, I think I'd like to bang on a snare drum!

What's your go-to road food?  
I haven't toured in a while, but I do do some driving. When I'm not eating the healthy stuff out of the cooler in the back, it's usually bad drive-thru or snacks like salt & vinegar chips or peanut butter-filled pretzels. I love a roadside stand, too — hot boiled peanuts, jerky, and peaches and oranges. I am not hard to please. 

Who was the best teacher you ever had — and why? 
I had a couple teachers early in my life, out West in California, who taught me or influenced me. In 1969, Mr. Jimby was my fourth grade homeroom teacher. He was handsome and tall, and he played old folk songs for us with his cowboy boots swung up on his desk, resting back in his chair, singing and playing guitar. Blew my little nine-year-old mind! Years later, in the same town, my high school band teacher was really intense and I loved his intensity while he rehearsed us for concert performance. His hair would shake back and forth across his head, his jacket would crawl up around his shoulders and neck. He'd stop us and yell at us and, when he was done ranting, we had learned something, a light would come on and suddenly we were better students. I was in awe of him.  

What's your favorite fruit?  
Probably the one I'm eating at the time. I keep apples and bananas year-round, but when I splurge for cherries, I eat them until I've had too many, and in the early Winter, I crave the red grapefruit, and in the Summer, it's mango and watermelon standing over the sink.


Boots or sneakers? 
Boots, boots, boots.

Noodles or rice?  
The starches curse me, so please don't tempt me with a bowl of hot, sticky white rice.

Pacific or Atlantic?
Pacific!

3×3: William Wild on Blues, Bluegrass, and Blink 182

Artist: William Wild
Hometown: Knoxville, TN
Latest Album: Steady Now
Rejected Band Names: Newport Plain Talk. It’s the name of a paper in a neighboring city where my parents are from. The paper told me I couldn’t use the name, but now that I think about it … I should have used it.

What was the first record you ever bought with your own money?
Blink 182, Enema of the State

How many unread emails or texts currently fill your inbox?
A cumulative four messages — I’m on top of things these days!

If your life were a movie, which songs would be on the soundtrack?
"Dreams"  — Fleetwood Mac
"Pink Moon" — Nick Drake
"Nevermind" –­ Nirvana
"City Lights" — Thomas Dybdhal
"Care of Cell 44" — The Zombies
"Pardon Me" –­ Incubus
"Dogs" –­ Damien Rice
"Be Here Now" — Ray Lamontagne
Heartbreaker –­ Ryan Adams (entire record)
This is silly … I could go all day.

What brand of jeans do you wear?
Raw … as can be.

What's your go­to karaoke tune?
"Livin’ on a Prayer" or "Enter Sandman"

If you were a liquor, what would you be?
I really like to drink whiskey.

Poehler or Schumer?
Schumer, although sometimes I feel awkward.

Chocolate or vanilla?
Vanilla

Blues or bluegrass?
For some reason I want to say blues … but bluegrass!